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Thoughts from the Sukkah

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  Scenes from our Sukkah It's the time of year when those with an eye to keeping ancient feast days are finding a way to live outside for a week, in remembrance of the time when God dwelt with his people in the wilderness. Usually, when our family does this we go through an oral retelling of the times God has lived with his people. In the beginning He would walk with Adam in the cool of the day. Until the serpent talked Eve into eating the fruit of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, and she gave it to Adam. The next time God came out for a walk with Adam he, newly aware of his own nakedness, inadequacy, and vulnerability, was too ashamed to meet God and walk with him. He hid. And the future of all mankind was changed. We were doomed to know, and be intimately acquainted with, our own weakness and shame, and our capacity for evil. We knew things and we were not brave enough to walk with God. Not most of us, anyway. The next time God dwelt with his people it was after leading them

My Children Have Always Been Third Culture Kids, and That's a Good Thing

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When you live overseas with children a conversation you might often have is about raising third culture kids, or TCKs. TCK is a term coined to describe people who grow up outside of the culture of their passport country, but also outside of the culture of the places they grow up in because as an expat you are never fully part of the local culture. These kids are third culture then, a culture that is unique to them and their experiences living overseas as expats in different cultures. There are many positive things to be said about the TCK experience, ease with transitions, comfort learning about other cultures, lots of interesting life experiences, capacity with other languages, travel, etc. There are also negative things about the TCK experience. The grief of saying goodbye to people over and over again, as the expat life is transient and people rarely stay a long time. The grief of leaving friends from your host country when you return to your passport country. The grief of mis

The End of an Era

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It was February 2001 when I became pregnant for the first time. That baby is now 17 years old, and probably leaving home in less than a year. Since that day in February when I first conceived I have been either breastfeeding , or pregnant, without any pauses, for 18 years. The last picture I ever took of me breastfeeding. I was always pregnant with another by the time I weaned the child who was nursing. It's not like I planned it that way. It just sort of happened. I was committed to extended breastfeeding, and I just kept getting pregnant before I'd had time to wean the previous child. So the new baby became the catalyst to wean the older sibling. All that to say, I'm done! A month ago my youngest, just before turning 3, stopped nursing to sleep, and I am no longer lactating. My body is no longer nourishing an extra person, for the first time in 18 years! Yes, I'm repeating myself. I'm not sure you get the significance of it. My breasts are

To my sixth child

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Dear Pax, You are perfect! You are everything a little boy should be. You are strong and agile. You climb and jump and ride your little push bike all over the place. You use swords and guns and make little explosion sounds with with your mouth while dramatically dropping into a fighting stance. "Pshshsh!" It's the best thing ever. You are big enough to play with your older brothers, and have a lot of fun. But sometimes you do that thing that toddlers do, where you try to claim everything as your own, shouting, "Mieeene!" When you do this the fun is killed for everyone as you cry and scream and your older siblings, frustrated with trying to distract you, or trade you another toy, or get you to play together, start to yell and scream too. But you are far more social than your oldest siblings were at your age. You love to have playmates. You want people to run around, and play cars with. You also love babies. You run up to babies in public making s

Here's How You Can Invest in a Woman's Future.

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They come to my door sometimes, always unannounced, and always with some inexpensive sugary drink or snack to give to me, the hostess, as is proper Asian custom. A blurry photo I snapped during one of those visits. We sit down, usually on the floor. They're more comfortable there. I pour the sickeningly sweet orange liquid into glasses, comment on how much bigger their babies have grown, and they tell me they need a job. Can I give them a job? These women have babies, children to feed, elderly parents to care for, and they are asking to work, not a for a handout, but for work. They are hoping I will say I need a house helper, someone to come and clean and wash laundry for me, for pay. "I already have 3 house helpers," I tell them. "I don't need anyone else." "What skills do you have?" Most of them say, "I don't have any." One answered, "I can clean house, take care of children, and cook Burmese food." I w

What Christmas Songs Tell Us About Hate

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It’s all around us this time of year, if we listen. Subversive, revolutionary ideas about how the world ought to be fill the air. Our ears ring with the promise of hope, life, light in the darkness, the broken made whole, those who are oppressed finding justice, those who are enslaved finding freedom, those who are fleeing from conflict finding peace. It’s in there, right beside the Santa Baby’s and that one song by Mariah Carey that everyone still knows that they play every where, even in Thailand. I hum the songs. I love the words, and as I hum them, so familiar, they catch at my awareness and bring tears to my eyes, steal my breath away. These words, they turn everything upside down. “ Truly he taught us to love one and other, His law is love, and his gospel is peace. Chains shall he break, for the slave is our brother, and in his name, all oppression shall cease…” “Come thou rod of Jesse bind, all peoples in one heart and mind. Bid envy strife and discord cease,

On Not Taking Things For Granted

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We play a little thought game sometimes, my husband and I. It's simple really. We take what we know about the people we meet, and we speculate on what their life would have been like if they had been able to access the same resources we had when we were young. There's a woman we know who takes every thing that comes her way and turns it into a business opportunity. She ran a grocery delivery service to families living outside of town. Every time she cooks dinner she sells a few extra plates to the men in her village who would rather not cook for themselves. She buys clothing at a discount and sells it at a profit. She's always taking care of people too Her parents both died when she was in 4th grade. That's the highest level of education she ever completed. After that there was no money for school. We think she'd be the CEO of a major corporation by now if she had been able to finish public school and go to college like we did. Another woman

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