Letters to a New Mother - Part 6 - What I wish someone had told me
Five nights after my first baby was born I woke up drenched from head to toe from what can only be described as a hot flash combined with a breast milk fountain. I spent the next 6 months sleeping on towels, with towels tucked over me to avoid having to wash sheets all day. I had expected the milk, but the excessive sweating was a total surprise.
"Why didn't anyone tell me about this?" I wondered.
(I moved onto tight sport bras and nursing pads eventually, instead of towels.)
When my hair started falling out in clumps in the shower at around 2-3 months postpartum I had to ask someone else if it was normal. Turns out you aren't going bald when this happens, you just haven't shed any hair for 9 months and now it's going back to normal.
When I sank lower than I ever remember sinking after the Girl was born I had never heard of postpartum depression before, other than the word baby blues. I didn't know there was a way out. (For me it was regular exercise, the endorphins were enough to kick my brain/hormones back into gear.)
The point is, there are a lot of weird things that happen in our bodies, hearts and minds in the process of becoming a mother. Modern life has a way of isolating women who are home taking care of children. We often don't know anyone else who has babies near by. Maybe none of our friends has had a baby yet. Our mothers may live thousands of miles away and maybe we don't want to parent like they did anyway. So who do you ask if this weird thing going on is normal or not, or talk to about your fears and doubts?
Well, the internet of course.
I've shared my top 3, now it's your turn. Tell us what you wish someone had told you before it happened. Tell us if you found a useful solution too. And if you are wanting to ask about something, go ahead and do it here also. Let's together make a little resource for women who haven't done this before and are looking for answers. Because no one should have to mother all alone, don't you think?